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Additionally, people like me never considered getting diagnosed as there wasn't any benefit. A diagnosis in 1980 may have helped me, but in 2025, I gain nothing.
When my daughter was diagnosed, the doctors, while interviewing me informed me that if I were to undergo the process of being diagnosed, it would be extremely easy. I was shocked. I never thought of myself as Aspergers or autistic...so I hyper fixated on it.
Result, it's freeing.
Knowing I'm autistic has allowed me to focus on productive pursuits rather than spending endless hours trying to figure out why something is different for me than others. It's helped me to sustain friendships with people. It was earth shaking to finally be able to start a conversation by saying
"I'm so sorry I can't look you in the eyes. I am happy to tell you that I can finally look to the sides of people rather than looking at their chests"
It's amazing how 45 years of staring at breasts has been bad for my reputation. But before the Aspergers epiphany, I would try too hard to look at the person and avoid their eyes by looking down. With the freedom of knowing, I feel free to apologize beforehand and not try so hard to look at the person.
We call it the spectrum because it's a huge Venn diagram. We're as different from each other as anyone else. But, while "neurotypical" people have really annoying quirks, like not being able to hold a conversation with 100 separate threads, Asperger's for example makes it really convenient to understand our quirks. And for the lucky ones, Aspis can ask each other "What's you're superpower" because hyperfixation often gives people extreme advantages over everyone else.
The earlier we can diagnose people, the earlier we can raise them properly.
BTW, many autistic people with empathy issues don't lack it. They just need to learn it when it comes natural to others.