In other words, your "charity" entitles you to pick winners and losers.
Absolutely. People still in the midst of self destruction don't deserve help. They must get on the straight and narrow first. I don't think that government aid is every the correct path. I think aid to someone should be much more personal and local. I think someone should make an investment in someone to watch and help, but also to stop that aid if the aid is being abused. Government aid does not do this. it just keeps on dumping the aid in where people expect it and abuse it to keep doing the same old things that got them in that position.
Why? And what is "anything like that? Sounds more religious than anything
There is a bit of religious quality to that but that is not the reason. Its just a broad expression of anything self destructive should disqualify you from getting help at the public's expense
Because of biases like yours."There is a great life lesson that SO many people never learn." It's not really a life lesson when it's permanent.
That is pretty much the very definition of a life lesson. Something that both sticks with you for life once you learn it or sticks with you for life if you ignore it.
"There are bad decisions that you can make that take 20 seconds to make, that can (and should) affect you the entire rest of your life."
Sure, for others but not for you. Empathy is for help that you need, cruelty is for help others need. "And once that decision is made, you pay for it your entire life in one way or another. You can still "make it" but it becomes vastly harder to make it."
That lesson absolutely is for me and mine as well as everyone else. It is one of the biggest lessons that I told my kids. I tell both of them if they screw up and do bad things, I will be the first one to turn them in to make sure they get their due. I don't want it to happen to them, but if they make bad life decisions I want them to pay for it.
Because the more guaranteed losers there are, the better the odds are you aren't one of them. You're just pulling up the ladders, you deserve all the flames you imagined you'd get.
Not pulling up the ladders, I want everyone to be able to make it. But no one should make it anyone else's expense. At least not a force one. I want everyone to learn the life lessons, to not make the mistakes and to pull their own weight in society.