Actually, I think we're more in opposition than you think. :) I may be a musician and software programmer next to my work as a chip designer, but my views on copyright seem to differ quite a bit from yours.
For starters: I don't believe in the phrase "deserve to get paid". Nobody deserves to get paid just because they put a lot of work into something. They deserve a fair chance to make a product that people want to buy, but if they make something nobody's interested in they deserve nothing, no matter how much time they put into it.
I also despise DRM, and not just because there's no such thing as an Open Source DRM implementation. DRM serves no purpose whatsoever. It cannot protect content, it costs a fortune to develop, and the only thing it does is piss off your customers. Why anyone would be foolish enough to invest in that is beyond me.
I do believe in copyright however, but not the travesty that it has become in the last 5 decades. Copyright was meant as an incentive to create, not as a protection for a certain business model. Copyright protects my work from being used by greedy corporations without my permission, but if I go out to sue my fans I'll soon be left without any. Sure that means that some will listen to/use my work without my permission, but they would not have been customers anyway, so I have lost nothing. As an artist, you should focus on those people who WILL be customers.
In a digital age, certain products cease to be scarce. This means you should either go for volume sales and/or focus on those things that ARE scarce. Several artists have already been amazed at how much fans are willing to pay for something that's really rare, like signed copies, limited edition dvds, life performances, etc.
The worst thing for an artist however is to be unknown. Here you have a medium (internet) that will allow you to get your work seen/heared by everybody, practically distributing for free, and yet you're fighting it rather than embracing it. As an artist you don't need to be internet savvy; you just need to find someone who is to do it for you. Besides: setting up a YouTube and MySpace page really isn't that difficult. You just need to invest some time to really get in touch with your fans.