The situation is certainly not as black and white as people appear to make it; however, when I wanted to go to college, I would have had a helping hand throughout the entire process, from filling out forms to requesting money if I were a female. As a male, all I received was, "we have plenty of males, we need to stimulate female accessibility".
You also appear to forget about Affirmative Action.
These programs were absolutely necessary to kickstart some amount of diversity; however, these programs did explicitly discriminate against white males regardless of how much you deny it. Which is why they were, theoretically at least, ended. Artificial discrimination is a terrible thing, even when it is used for "good". It is like murdering part of the population to make everyone who is left feel more equal.