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As Valentine's Day looms, CNN gets a bit fuzzy. :-)

So, are you...

  • The romantic?
  • The list-maker?
  • The obsessive?
  • The giver?
  • The player?
  • The pal?

In real life, of course, a healthy relationship probably requires elements of each of these styles. An appropriate balance is a good thing, even if one style predominates. Even... Oh, the heck with that. What kind of lover are you?

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  • not any of the others except maybe the Pal.
  • At this point. Yikes the airlines are messed up today. Love it when they start off canning the flight home, and then fighting off the hordes to climb on whatever is left. On the plus side, the company saved all of $210 to fly me with a double connection and an airline where I have no status. Good thing both hubs are getting hit by snow.

    My Bride is having just a wee bit too much fun with this. Was there a bread and water option?

  • I'd say I'm the "why yes, you are my favorite in the harem" type.

    Cheers,

    Ethelred

  • During tonight's Krav Maga training, boyfriend of tuxette body-slammed me, and I returned the favor by giving him a swift kick to the nuts. You tell me...
  • I am definitely the "pal" type of lover.
    • Yes, I understand that well. I tend not to be interested in a woman that I do not see as a friend. If she's not worth being a friend, why bother dating? And of course, that's how things got started with Koria. We got to be really good friends, and then... Well, more happened. :-)
  • My wife was my best friend long before we were dating or realized we were in love.

  • ""suggests Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D""

    ... love advice from Dr. Pepper !?!

    I can see it now ... Dr Pepper's warning signs:

    • Has the fizz gone out of your relationship?
    • Is your love-life flat?
    • Looking for "something stronger, more potent?"
    • Do you feel like your partner is past their "best before date"
    • Tired of the "same old same old"

    ... I'm a pepper, he's a pepper, she's a pepper, we're a pepper, wouldn't you like to be a pepper too ... [advertisementave.com]

    • She's doctor (Ph.D.) here at the UW. Her classes are always fun and insightful. Her lab was the first to actually document predictive tests to determine if your long-term relationship and/or marriage would: a. be happy, b. last, c. get better or worse.

      She's sometimes on TV and the radio - and has a number of published books on bestseller lists to her name, as well as many published scientific articles.
      • John Gottman is also there, if I don't have different UWs confused. :-) Lots of marriage research, it appears.

        Her book Peer Marriage [amazon.com] looks interesting. Thanks for the information.
        • Yup, true. But it is true the University of Wisconsin is known as the UW as well. I went there for genetics database training once, from the University of Washington to our sister university. Really cold and snowy in the winter - and they use coal for heating - very dry.
          • Inasmuch as I grew up in Wisconsin, to me your nick places you a couple of thousand miles to the east of your actual location. :-)

  • I don't know... (Score:3, Funny)

    by Some Woman ( 250267 ) * on Tuesday February 13, 2007 @07:39PM (#18005288) Journal
    What kind of lover are you when you calculate your hypothetical taxes using form 1040A to make sure it makes fiscal sense before extending a marriage proposal by email?

    I don't think I'm on their list.
  • I don't agree that a romantic will lose interest as the recipient of affections gets older. I think part of being in love with love is that you enjoy spoiling someone, and being spoiled back :) No, not just anyone. That someone has to be worthy. Which, if you think about it, is a bit narcissistic. :)
  • I don't seem to fit into any of those categories. To me, if there is no spark at the beginning, there won't be one later either, but I don't think I need to be swept off my feet every second of the relationship, and I'm not disappointed when people change ... in fact, how horrible if they stayed the same all through life and its complications!

    From the article: My husband and I have been married less than 10 years, but we're the quintessential "old married couple."

    That said, I find this sentence incredibly d
    • Yes, change is normally a good thing. It needs to be accepted and even encouraged within a marriage. But it also needs to be based on a commitment to the relationship to be a positive force in the marriage.

      I see those categories less as groups into which people fit than as elements that are present in every relationship, to a greater or lesser extent. You never know when that spark is going to happen (as your JE amply illustrates :-) ).

      If the "old married couple" thing works for them, fine. I don't thin

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