Throwing fits when a normal server at a restaurant calls what looks to be a male "mr" or "sir"....trying to get them fired, etc.
Calling someone the name they prefer seems to be just common decency. Imagine if you were in a restaurant, and the waiter insisted on calling you asshat. And you said, please, "I'm not an asshat, please call me cayene8. I may look like an asshat, and I may behave like an asshat, but I prefer to be called cayene8." And if the waiter continued to call you asshat, would you not have a reasonable complaint with the manager of that restaurant?
It comes when men calling themselves women, start to intrude into real womens' spaces...locker rooms, competing in women's sports....etc.
Laws that require people to use the bathroom that corresponds with their birth certificates require transmen (who look like men but were marked "W" at birth) to use women's restrooms. So you will have people who look just like men using women's restrooms with such laws. Is this really want you want?
And if the problem is locker rooms and restrooms, why not make those spaces private for everyone through better design (such as stalls with doors that go down to the floor, or private changing spaces)?
Sports leagues have long had rules to protect fairness, and they seem to be working just fine. There's no evidence that specific sports allowing transgirls or transwomen to compete in women's / girls' sports, who meet specific guidelines, is dangerous or unfair.
The real thing that sank that ship, is when they started coming for children. Trying to force books on trans and queer on school children.....
Oh no, acknowledging that there are queer and trans people in our communities, and observing that the way they perceive society might be different...the horror!
in some states, ruling against parents that refused to permanently harm their kids with medical "trans help treatments"....hormones, surgery. Allowing ultra left teachers to hide secrets on sexuality from parents while allowing them to speak sexuality into the children's ear....
Children have a right to health care, just like adults. While we may limit access to certain procedures for children, such as sex reassignment surgery (which generally were not happening anyway - most states that banned this could not identify ANY instances of such surgeries occurring), children still have a right to be healthy and get health care even if their parents object.
People tend to get really fucking uptight when you start fucking with their kids....and moving to that plane was a bridge too far for normal people and parents.
Sorry, you don't own your kids. You are not their master. They have rights as human beings, and sometimes that means going against what their parents want.