Pah it just lost my comment.
I do suggest you listen to some women and radical feminists for their views, listening hurts no one and the world is a better place when people with divergent views can share them openly without fear. Most of the radical feminists I've met seem welcoming enough if you can manage polite conversation.
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It is not 'violence against women', it is 'Male Violence against women', there is a subject the violence is not committed by the passive voice. I criticise men because I think most men have something to be sorry for, whether it be hands where they were not wanted to rape and murder. I certainly have things I am sorry for. I did at least learn the lessons as a teenager and not repeat them as an adult. Male violence and male socialisation have also caused me worry and pain. So when the house of men is in order I can then feel in a position to criticise others. Until then I will continue to speak out on male violence. You may see it as anti-men rhetoric but you know when you read of a domestic murder, either it was a violent man killing his partner or those rare occasions when a woman abused for years finally snaps and kills the man. You see those same stories in the papers I do. Also male violence affects men too, more than 50% of reported victims of violent crime in the UK are male (90+% committed by males). Yes I get 'not all men' I do, I try to be one of the not all group, don't really need to say it, prefer to do something about the Problem. 100% of rape is committed by men (in the UK at least), it has something like a 2% conviction rate. I don't think men are particularly worried about it. As rape seems to be on the increase data suggests they are not overly concerned with being caught.
Also speak to your female friends, see if they would agree if male violence is a topic men should discuss.
But porn is not healthy sexual relationships. It's mostly abuse of women for men's pleasure. It is normalising the abuse of women in relationships. There is no alternative source of healthy sexual relationships available to many. Data seems to suggest abusive relationships are starting in teenage years and the growing asexual numbers who don't enjoy the pornified sex that is portrayed and know nothing else so avoid it all. There are many differing views on porn, I don't think it helps and the normalisation of porn into mainstream culture seems to be damaging some women and men. You can actually act out legally most things in porn so it's not quite the same as video games (I really like shooting things in the head sometimes). But I used porn for many years (never bought sex, never could I see that as personally moral) but started listening to women a couple of years ago. They make a lot of good points and I've not been able to find arguments against them. But a middle aged man can only give you a certain view, listen to others who are not like you, see what they think and then consider the whole.
But men are the ones most profiting from porn from mostly the labour of women. It's all pretty exploitative. You can't just look at the product but how it's made too.
If you also look up the nordic model and how it has actually worked https://ancillary-proxy.atarimworker.io?url=https%3A%2F%2Fnordicmodelnow.org%2Fwha... locking up the Johns does indeed solve the problem, providing help to the women, helps the women. If there were not such data on how you can reduce the problem I could see your point. But unfortunately there is data and it mostly shows what to do. If we didn't ignore it we could help people. http://www.feministcurrent.com...