"This is a problem men cannot fix"
Yeah, they can. I'm 100% with you in having been seeing how men are become the catch-all scapegoat of all the problems, but I also see that like stereotypes, there's a kernel of truth in the hyperbole. The vast majority of DV cases are perpetrated by men. The vast majority of sex crimes are perpetrated by men. Unfortunately, the "patriarchy" is responsible for why a lot (perhaps even most) men grow up emotionally stunted. Most of us are keenly aware of how we were raised only being allowed to be happy or angry, sad had to be minimized and anything else made you a "sissy" or worse, some of us grow up with decent dads but a lot are not fit to be parents because they had bad parents, etc. etc. It's a long cycle that needs to stop somewhere, and we can't rely on others, esp. our partners, to fix it.
So yeah. We do have avenues to fix our own shit. It does suck, we didn't ask to be born or to get the life we had or have, but like it or not, it's up to us to do something about it.