Excellent post. One point I would like to add is - Don't let your ego rule you especially when you are with her. Moreover, when she is angry simply listen to her, accept all accusations without fighting back, as fighting back wont help at all. This seems to work quite well for me. Watch the movie "Revolver" by Guy Ritchie. This movie will teach you everything you need to know about how to control your ego.

I don't think it is wrong to create your own reality. I think it is perfectly normal. I think everyone one creates their own reality and geeks happen to create one via the computer.